John Wayne has always been one of my heroes. The Duke could ride, shoot, break a horse, mend a fence, speak Apache, fly a plane, and knock a man out with one punch. He truly was a man’s man.
One thing, though, that he wasn’t good at in the movies was expressing love. He’d grab the girl, pull her in tight, look her in the eye, and then plant one on her. But only after he’d used harsh words, or been neglectful, or even been downright mean. He always meant well, and used manners, but how was she supposed to know he loved her?
So to us: how in the world are our wives supposed to know we love them, if all we ever do is call them to the carpet for they’re shortcomings?
If our wives are our #1 priority, we’ve got to show them in word and deed. A mantra my dad had that I hold true, is this: “My work is my job, my family is my career”.
Here’s the practical advice:
- Say “I love you” – don’t hold out on this one. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the words don’t have to be said. Say it frequently. It won’t diminish their value if you’re saying it to your one and only. Say it at the end of every phone call, and every time one of you leaves. If they’re the last words you ever say to each other, you won’t ever regret it.
- Get her flowers – you don’t have to go expensive. There are flowers for every budget. Didn’t you see the ones on the roadside the other day? Flowers are symbolic in many ways, but the gesture makes the statement “I was thinking of you”. People feel loved when they are thought of.
- Do the dishes – this will go further with her than lots of things. If the dishes are already part of your daily list, pick something that’s not on your list and do it. Serving each other does incalculable good for your relationship.
Above all else: Love Your Wife