It’s been said before, if you don’t date your wife, someone else will. That’s not saying your wife is actively seeking someone else, it’s saying that women who do not have the emotional bond with their husbands will find a way to fill the void their husbands have created.
Too many men think that once they’re married, they don’t have to try anymore. I’m here to tell you that’s patently untrue. You need to nurture your relationship. God created marriage as a partnership where each is equal, NOT one being subservient to the other.
So to avoid a potentially bad situation, or to fix one you’re already in: date your wife.
To help the creatively challenged, here’s some date ideas for married couples:
- Dinner and a Movie – This classic date night can be done a variety of ways: restaurant dinner and theater movie, take-out and redbox, or pizza delivery and netflix. What ever combination you choose, this is always a winner.
- Dessert – Sometimes you don’t have time to go all out. Sometimes you only have an hour or two. Take that time and go for the good stuff. Marie Callender’s, local coffee shops, and even Applebee‘s have great dessert options.
- Game Night– Whether playing Settlers of Catan or spin the bottle, games are a good way to spur conversation and to have fun. Just don’t get too competitive, you’re not trying to beat each other, you’re trying to have fun.
- Do Nothing – Choose an activity that forces the activity to be the two of you talking. Date number 2 does this, there are lots of others you can come up with. Cook together, go for a walk, watch a sunset or sunrise. What ever you do, keep the conversation going.
- Geo-Caching – A fun outdoor activity with GPS devices. Kind of geeky, but it’s always fun to go on a treasure hunt. Why not go with the one you want to share all your treasure with?
Here’s the practical advice:
- Stay in budget – You don’t always have to buy flowers, you don’t always have to go out for steak or sushi. You already got the girl, now impress her with your ability to show her a good time and still save money.
- Think outside the box – Go somewhere new. Even your favorite place can get old if you go there every date night. Be adventurous (without hurting yourselves). Try a new cuisine, check out local places. If it bombs, at least you had fun trying it together. On the other hand, you may find a new favorite place!
- Have a set date night schedule – Just like many other things in life, if you don’t plan for it, it won’t happen. Put it on the calendar, know when it is. Maybe it’s every Friday night, maybe it’s once a month, just make time and don’t let anything overrule it.
- Babysitter in advance – Plan ahead, the good babysitters go fast. Try to give them as much notice as possible. Don’t get stuck trying to get a sitter the day of.
- Create a tradition of dates – Every year you celebrate your anniversary, there’s one tradition. Why not add others? My wife and I enjoy several events together each year that we look forward to like the Rodeo and the Banff Mountain Film Festival World Tour.
Above all else: Love Your Wife